Abuse and consciousness do not mix

When I abuse sex I do not see you. Instead I project my fantasies on you and actually have sex with myself. I only use your body.

When I am present in the caress and kiss, I am with you, and then the abuse stops. It is impossible to be present and to abuse sex at the same time. Unawareness is a trademark of abuse, whether it is abuse of a substance or of sex.

When I am aware I choose to be in the touch. There’s nowhere I’d rather be right then.

So the solution to my sex abuse is meditation and being consciously present.

Photo: Untitled by Joe St.Pierre on Flickr

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Get your head out of the books

Many religious books have been written by people who have had great insights, which they have tried to pass on. Unfortunately their followers have often totally missed the point. Instead of being inspired to find the same insight into life, many have become ignorant fundamentalist know-nothings who build belief systems and dogma from the texts.

That risk is present where ever people are trying to pass on insights. Some seem to think that the point of it all is to try to parrot what the person who seems to know has said. But a parrot does not become a human even if it wears a hat, just as someone with no insight doesn’t become insightful by reciting texts which they do not understand.

Don’t be a parrot.
Lift your eyes from the pages.
Explore for yourself.
Think and talk with your own words.

Photo: untitled by le vent le cri on Flickr

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The question that helps me learn from difficult situations

A number of years ago I became entangled in a tough workplace conflict. It wasn’t really about me, but suddenly my employment was in focus. I felt offended when I felt that the people that I previously had a good working relationship with treated me badly.

Right at the beginning of the conflict I went to a vipassanna meditation, which is basically ten days of deep meditation with a technique that brings clarity. The first day my head was full of chatter. I managed to keep my focus for 20 seconds and then I was off to visit the job conflict for ten minutes, before I managed to return my focus. That continued the entire first day, until I found a crucial insight regarding the conflict.

It was not about me.

I just happened to be the one who held the job that had become a bargaining chip, so even if I took it personally it was ultimately not about the person Daniel. It was actually not even about the employee Daniel. It was about the position that I held.

When I let go of my hurt feelings I was able find a question that I have used in several difficult situations since then:

What can I learn from this?

This is one of the most liberating questions I have found, because it shifts focus from how unpleasant we feel that the situation is, to what we can learn from it. All situations have something to teach us, but especially those difficult situations. A difficult situation is a situation that we find difficult to manage, which means that the lesson we can learn from it is so much greater. There is a potential to grow.

My work situation was no better when I came back from the meditation, but my focus had shifted. A very stressful time followed, but since the question “what can I learn from this?” repeated itself like a mantra in my head, I learned a lot about myself and others.

I hope I never have to experience any more conflicts like that one, but I am extremely grateful for all I learnt and have forgiven everyone that I held a grudge against.

Photo: 100721-A-4817Z-025 by Expert Infantry on Flickr

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The crazies around here

I found a wonderful thought on HealingWithLoa that I would like to share with you.

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“Imagine not believing in the spirit world. You would believe that people who do believe in the spirit world are crazy.

Now imagine realizing that the spirit world is all very real. Now you realize it is everyone else who is crazy–yet they are still acting like YOU are crazy.

It’s very crazy making.”

Photo: The Ghost Horse of Gower by Geraint Rowland on Flickr

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Naysha: What is shamanism?

There is a lot of confusion about shamans, healers, gurus, sages and many other loosely understood titles. People have all sorts of preconceived ideas and prejudices when thinking about shamanism, especially since shamanism is usually seen as an archaic practice left behind by the modern world.

Shamanism has existed as long as humans have walked this earth, and is an integral part of the human expression. Shamanism is expressed differently in different cultural groups, but a good general definition is that the shaman is a person capable of restoring order and harmony in individuals and in the group.

Shamans are sometimes described as intermediaries between the human and the spirit world. But essentially shamans are people with a strong interest in the cultural, social and political aspects of their societies, and who facilitate personal growth and evolution within the community.

American psychologist and consciousness pioneer, Stanley Krippner, describes shamans as “community-assigned magico-religious professionals who deliberately alter their consciousness in order to obtain information from the ‘spirit world.’ They use this knowledge and power to help and to heal members of their community, as well as the community as a whole.”

Shamanism is essential to the modern world because it deals with interpreting and understanding consciousness and reality. In the West there are vital questions being asked about our sustainability and our lifestyles. There is a powerful desire to create a consciousness and behaviour that not only fulfils the well-being of individuals but enables a sustainable and respectful relationship with the natural world. To do this we need all the tools we have at our disposal. Shamanism is one of those tools.

Naysha Silva Romero

Photo: Blue Hair Reconnect Zíta Rá Woodsculpture Art Installation by Dominic Alves on Flickr

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LD50 shows why alcohol is more dangerous than many other drugs

Anyone who wants to talk about how dangerous different drugs are can have a look at the LD 50. LD means Lethal Dose and the 50 indicates the dose which will kill half the test population. The lower the value, the more dangerous the substance.

2006330104938_847Five times the dose of heroin is what it takes to kill half the population, as you can see in this chart from the American Scientist. As most people are aware heroin is a very dangerous drug that claims many lives. One thing that makes heroin particularly deceptive is that it is difficult to determine the quality before you have tried it and it is therefore easy to overdose. The physical quantities needed are also very small.

Alcohol requires ten times the dose before half the population dies. Alcohol has a natural, but for some easily overcome barrier. You simply need to drink very much to be in danger of dying. But each year many people die in drinking games and such. Hard liquor increases the risk significantly, as it requires a much smaller physical quantity.

In contrast to these dangerous drugs, there are a number of drugs that have remarkably high LD 50 values. To have a 50 percent chance of dying from cannabis one needs to take more than 1000 times the dose. Cannabis has a built-in barrier in that it is physically impossible to take such a dose.

LSD and magic mushrooms require the same insanely high doses to reach their LD 50. It is physically possible to take a 1000 doses of LSD, because LSD is so potent, but it is hard to imagine the circumstances when that would happen. You would have to be a very thirsty laboratory assistant who mistook liquid LSD for water and accidentally drink some hearty gulps. That could make a fun plot for a film, but it hardly seems reasonable that it would happen for real. The small dose required when working with LSD does however lead to many accidental overdoses. Such trips can sometimes give the user an experience of dying, but there is no physical danger to the person’s life. Mushrooms also require 1000 times the dose, but there is once again the natural barrier. It is simply unthinkable that anyone could eat that many mushrooms.

That is the scientific explanation to why we have so many deaths caused by alcohol or heroin poisoning, but none caused by cannabis, LSD or mushrooms. So when someone says that alcohol is more dangerous than cannabis, LSD or mushrooms, they are scientifically speaking correct. People die from alcohol poisoning every day. No one ever dies of cannabis, LSD or mushroom poisoning.

Read more:
Robert Gable, American Scientist (2006) The toxicity of recreational drugs
Daniel Wilby, wilby.nu (2014) What is dangerous?

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Small, small dreams

– What did you dream of becoming or doing when you were a teenager?

I thought back of what I expected from life and dreamed of, and eventually came to the conclusion that my expectations were not only way off, but that they were also set far too low.

My great desire for a long period was to be a journalist and work at the same newspaper as my mother. I eventually became a journalist and worked at several newspapers, but never at the one where my mother worked. After a few years I felt I was done. I had learnt what I was there for.

Then began a journey of personal and spiritual development.

I recovered from addiction.
I healed and got to know my true essence.
I got in touch with the spirit world and my children.

I found transition points between realities.
Got to know angels.
Explored my psyche and universe.

It is sometimes said that a psychedelic trip can be the same as ten years of therapy in one evening. I’m nowhere close to being finished, but I have by now had many lifetimes of therapy and in contact with others I can really notice the difference.

I connected upwards, downward, inside and out.
I ran to face my fears and to challenge my traumas.
Did found both the guru and the shaman in me.

My teenage dreams seem so small now. Journalist at a newspaper. So simple.

I am an explorer. I move between realities, times and levels of awareness. I am a father who takes care of his children. I am an expression of the highest divine. I am Daniel.

But I still wonder what I should be or do when I grow up.

Photo: Close Up of the Human Eye by Hugo A Quintero G on Flickr

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Unconditional love

– It does not matter how angry or disappointed I am in you, I will always love you anyway. My mother always told me that when I was little.

I did not understand it then, but my friends words stuck with me. Now that I am a father I say the same to my children. I want them to always know that they are loved just the way they are, no matter what they do and what I think about it.

Photo: grouch by greg westfall on Flickr (not my child)

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